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"Learning to see is the basis for learning all of the arts."
- Flannery O'Connor |
How Grief Breaks the Sentenceby Nikki Sambitsky
We have good days, and we have bad days. The good days shine warm and bright in my memory like a ray from the summer sun. The bad days, the meltdowns, the self-injurious behaviors, the noncompliance, the opposition, break my spirit with their impossible weight.It was in those times that I was tasked to open up my journal and record whatever came into my mind. It was in those times that I could not find enough words. My brain made my hand hold the pen, put ink to paper, write the words that were incomplete, painful, fragmented, broken. And in those darkest journaling sessions, I found my writer’s voice. It shouted out loud from among the din of those emotionally charged jumbled-up fragments. It needed to be heard, heard loud and clear, without the restrictions of dialogue, “show, don’t tell,” carefully crafted scenes. It needed to push beyond the confines of traditional creative nonfiction. Around that time, I was also reading Mourning Diary from Roland Barthes, Book of Mutter from Kate Zambreno, Maggie Nelson’s Bluets, and Lea Purpura’s On Looking. Within those texts sit fragments, pain, gorgeous, lyrical prose, tears, heartbreak, and depth. These writers wrote the pain and heartache. They didn’t reconstruct the scenes, recreate the dialogue. They spoke their truth in lyric and/or in fragments. The lyric essay uses poetic phrasing and nontraditional formatting, such as fragments, broken sentences, unusual use of punctuation, outside-of-the box stylistic choices, large use of white space, etc. In our hardest moments, going through the worst grief and sadness that we encounter, oftentimes the writing comes out shattered and doesn't fall into a more traditionally-structured form. There may be no dialogue, pages of white space, broken sentences or fragments, or just a couple of sentences on a page. It sometimes doesn't follow any timeline or structure, much like grief. The grief and our level of grief reflects in the writing. It is always my hope that in writing my grief in the only way my heart knows how, that I will reach a reader who needs to hear those same words, even though they may not be going through the same situation. Because in our most extreme pain and most abundant happiness, regardless of the circumstances, we are all emotionally universal. DISCUSSION: What shape does your grief take for you when it materializes on the page? Are there single words? Fragments? Quiet moments and breaths taken through white space?
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Ellen F.
11/28/2018 10:29:06 am
Very interesting - I've never thought about grief having a shape on the page, but this makes absolute sense. I would have to say that for me grief does end up taking more of a narrative shape, a story, but then again, I haven't experimented with nontraditional writing as much, so maybe that's why. Thank you for sharing this!
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Nikki Sambitsky
11/28/2018 10:48:04 am
Hi Ellen,
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12/5/2018 03:16:34 am
Hi Nikki,
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Nikki Sambitsky
12/5/2018 04:13:35 am
C Flanagan,
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